I've been reading a few posts here and there's a recurring theme, that is also widely found elsewhere, that I really dislike. It's a turnoff.

I am totally familiar with conceptualizing my lover as a goddess during sex. Well, beyond that, she is a goddess to me. That's the only effective sort of "conceptualization". That is, where it becomes indistinguishable from the experience itself.

Anyway, the theme is that in a gangbang a woman is a goddess or the one to be pleased and men are "drones", or walking dildos. This is really limited. There's a lot more potential energy to drum up. When I'm with a woman, we are both divine. If being some lucky schmuck fucking a goddess is great for orgasm, being a god with goddess, and further, converging with that goddess into one divine entity is much more of a trip and offers greater rewards in terms of sexual energy and "orgastic potential".

Maybe that all sounds woo-woo and froofy, but bear with me. In a gangbang, or a threesome, or any sexual experience, it's most intense to hold on to everyone's "divinity". Honestly, if I personally don't like the guy next to me, there is sexual potential which has been lost. If it's a turn on to see a group of men with a woman, and further, a group of men with a goddess, it is even more potentially rewarding to see the whole experience and every player involved as sacred. It's understandable, perhaps, that such games of consciousness can be hard to sustain. Perhaps the reduction of men to drones is necessary for some to gain the ascension of the woman to a goddess.

It is, nonetheless, distatsteful to me. Just as the reduction of the woman to a slut is distasteful to me. It is short-sighted. It may be easier to acheive conceptually, but it brings with it diminishing returns.

Bringing this back down to earth, so to speak, the more investment into the experience the greater the possible payback. Yes, there's also the potential for disappointment. Of course! But the potential rewards should galvanize one seek the right sort of people to enjoy and create the experience with. Meeting up with any old group of horny men diminishes us and them. And It also takes away from the woman who is ostensibly deserving all our worship.

We need to be worshipping eachother and rejoicing in the experience itself--not just from the woman's perspective, or one man's perspective, but from that of the whole group.